Angelina Villalva, NAMI Intern
Have you ever been told by a parent, “Where’s the you I used to know?” In some ways, you feel that you have not changed at all. Yet, from the eyes of someone who’s watched you grow and go from a small infant to a teenager and then adult, you’ve become someone entirely different.
It’s not unheard of for us to experience changes in our personality and self-image as we develop and grow into ourselves. It’s common that we often look back and see phases of our lives where we behaved or dressed a way that is so far removed from what we act and look like presently.
Although everyone experiences shifts and changes in personality as we age, some are afflicted with personality disorders (PD), something more severe than just meager shifts in typical mood and behavior changes exhibited in teenagers.
So what is a personality disorder? According to Mayo Clinic, personality disorders are defined as a condition where people have a lifelong pattern of seeing themselves and reacting to others in ways that cause problems.
Personality disorders often begin in adolescence but are not diagnosed until much later due to the rapidly changing personality and self-image of adolescents and teenagers with development. As categorized in the DSM-5, personality disorders can fall under 3 clusters:
- Cluster A: Odd or eccentric disorders
- Cluster B: Dramatic, emotional, or erratic disorders
- Cluster C: Anxious or fearful disorders
You may already be familiar with some of the personality disorders found amongst Cluster B, those being antisocial PD, borderline PD, histrionic PD, and narcissistic PD. (In fact, if you haven’t already, check out more information on histrionic personality disorder in fellow intern, Bella Santulli’s, post Histrionic Minds).
Today, we’ll mainly be covering the symptoms and treatments available for borderline personality disorder (BPD).
BPD is the most widely studied personality disorder. Those afflicted are characterized with high impulsivity and high emotional instability. Provided from Cleveland Clinic are the following common symptoms:
- Fear of abandonment
- Unstable, intense relationships
- Unstable self-image or sense of self
- Rapid mood changes
- Impulsive and dangerous behavior
- Repeated self-harm or suicidal behavior
- Persistent feelings of emptiness
- Anger management issues
- Temporary paranoid thoughts
Up to 75% of people diagnosed with BPD are female, although males may be equally affected but misdiagnosed with PTSD or depression. Causes of BPD may vary, but unfortunately there is a correlation between childhood abuse and trauma, with 70% of people who have reported experiencing sexual, emotional, or physical abuse as a child developing BPD. Similarly, those with family members who experience BPD are more likely to develop BPD as well.
Historically, BPD has been difficult to treat. While medication may help, there is not a definite correlation created as of recent. However, current treatment which has been showing promise pertains to psychotherapy treatment such as dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), or group therapy.
Individuals with BPD are more likely to partake in self-harm or suicidal tendencies than the average person. If you or someone you know is afflicted with BPD or similar thoughts/actions, please reach out for help. As always, no one is alone and there are resources available to you for support.
Despite how you change, you will always be important and loved.
Resources:
- Suicide and Crisis Lifeline: Text or call 988
- National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: Call 1-800-273-8255
- Information about causes, signs and symptoms, and treatment options of BPD (https://www.samhsa.gov/mental-health/what-is-mental-health/conditions/borderline-personality-disorder)
- NAMI Mercer Helpline Phone Number: 609-799-8994 x17
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